tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7317855052934856954.post3982749328809951468..comments2014-07-24T14:15:15.523-07:00Comments on Finding the Light: Life These Days With Two KidsCorinnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02917771167799673892noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7317855052934856954.post-82551436533909109482011-10-26T17:31:17.678-07:002011-10-26T17:31:17.678-07:00Hi, I found you from myhappycasa, and I just wante...Hi, I found you from myhappycasa, and I just wanted to throw my two cents in...take it or leave it. My oldest was the same way when baby #2 came. It's an attention thing. It was/is for us anyway. Baby's take so much time and need so much. They are always being held, always being fussed over, always needing a clean diaper, always eatting, etc. The older one starts to feel left out and then acts up. Spend some naptimes or times when the baby is happy on the floor playing tea time or whatever, start doing some "just for the two of us" things like a craft during naptime, or while the baby is in the high chair with some cheerios, and point out to your oldest the things that she can do that the baby can't and get her involved, and I think her attitude toward you will improve. Good luck!mamaKhttp://lingeringlife.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7317855052934856954.post-6516753139673045632011-10-05T08:57:34.292-07:002011-10-05T08:57:34.292-07:00It is a phase I am sure. I tell my big kids all th...It is a phase I am sure. I tell my big kids all the time to ignore Cash when he is ugly to them b/c he too is going through a phase. They ask me all the time "Mom, How long is this phase going to lastttt?". He is almost 3 and has discovered the joy in telling me "No" and being defiant...something I have never seen in him before. Because I have two older ones, I KNOW it will be over before too long. My advice is to just hang in there and be consistent with the discipline (time out or whatever you choose). And I agree with Valerie, stay calm. If I allow myself to get angry and raise my voice, it makes things worse. <br /><br />Also, it is totally normal for them to have different behavior with different parents. Working in a school, babysitting and nannying for yrs prior to being a Mom, I saw this ALL the time. My kids have done it as well. It probably won't always be this way. Just make sure Matt backs you up when she is acting up for you. When he gets home maybe he could talk to her about how she misbehaved or was rough with Ava. You don't need to always be the bad guy. I think it is a HUGE help when B lets the kids know that even though he wasn't here for the (insert issue...tantrum, hurting sibling, disobeying Mom...) that it is unacceptable and he stands behind me in the punishment I choose or whatever.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11348091796201709070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7317855052934856954.post-38953030826080766802011-10-05T06:39:42.907-07:002011-10-05T06:39:42.907-07:00I think it's a stage they go through because J...I think it's a stage they go through because Jonas does the exact same thing...he thinks it's funny to defy me and when I punish him he acts like it's a game...time out is funny, standing in the corner is funny...it's really frustrating. I wish I had some super nanny advice for you but the only thing I've found is that keeping very calm and not getting upset helps a lot. If I lose my temper then it just backfires on me and makes things worse...seems to just feed the fire...I hope she starts being a good girl soon!Valerienoreply@blogger.com